Personal Success Strategies - The Expression-Repression-Depression-Connection

With all these rhymes I was tempted to write a poem about this topic (and I may still...stay tuned for the sequel!!)

However, I decided I would just be straight-forward with these dynamics, seeing how critically valuable they are in our day-to-day lives.

We have a choice we make many times during the course of a day: Express it or repress it.

In other words, we either find a way to release our expression, which may be referred to as "emotional discharge", or we "stuff it", which is synonymous with repression.

It is quite normal to have to do some "stuffing" during the course of a day, but what is important is that you have an awareness of that and find an appropriate time and place to release it.

Think of these emotions as being weights, and every time you stuff one you put some additional weight on your back. It can be very subtle; after all, a pound here and there doesn't amount to much. However, if you begin to accumulate an excessive amount, the load can very easily begin to have some profound effects on your energy.

That is where the "depression" component comes in.

I have never met a person who was struggling with this depressed energy who didn't have a significant amount of unexpressed emotion. So rather than risk getting into any depressive energy, why don't we take look at some healthy methods of expressing your emotions.

1. First, realize your personal indicators of stuffed emotions. Some of the common examples would include fatigue, irritation, isolation, rage, decreased concentration, obsessing or ruminating, anxiety, and sleep and/or appetite disturbances. Identify for yourself what your indicators are.

2. I would recommend doing a daily inventory (call it "mental flossing") to identify what, if any, feelings need to be released.

3. Create a number of outlets to release your emotions. Some examples would include talking to your friends, your spouse, or your support group, writing or journaling, singing, dancing, drumming, running, biking, weight-lifting, kick-boxing, meditation, prayer, and creative visualization. Use all the interventions that you can, and repeat as often as you need to.

4. If any of the above emotional releasing exercises feel "weird", or if you feel vulnerable or uncomfortable in doing them, then I would say "Congratulations!!" to you.

Whenever you step out of on old pattern and into a new one, it is very normal for it to feel weird, vulnerable, and uncomfortable. Those feelings, in fact, are validation that you are creating some new skills to deal with these emotional dynamics.

And just like everything else in life, when you repeat something over and over that is new and uncomfortable or awkward, it soon becomes comfortable and normalized in your day-to-day life.

I hope you stay on the path of the "expression-connection" to avoid the repression-depression of non-expression.

Now I think I will go work on that poem...or maybe I'll even turn into it a rap and really get self-expressed...

(Just a quick disclaimer: Clinical depression is a chemical imbalance that usually needs to be treated by medication, and although the contents of this article can be very helpful in the recovery of such a depressive state, this by no means is meant to be a substitute for medical intervention. If you think you are suffering from clinical depression, I recommend that you see your doctor or a mental health professional.)

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Ken Donaldson has been offering counseling, coaching, and educational programs since 1987. His programs are focused on empowering people to have more successful lives, businesses and relationships. Claim your FREE Relationship Success Special Report at Marry YourSelf First!. Ken is the author of Marry YourSelf First! Saying "I DO" to a Life of Passion, Power and Purpose.

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